10 MINUTES A DAY TO TRANSFORM YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

Teacher Wei often hears people lament that they don’t have a lot of time to practice Mingjue Gongfu — the training of Pure Consciousness or the Inner Observer. He playfully reminds us: “Every moment in daily life is an opportunity to practice, so you will find you have a lot of time to practice!” Perhaps the greatest opportunities to practice are in your relationships. Relationships, he says, are a high-level practice. They can test your ability and stability like nothing else.

To cultivate a good mingjue state in your qigong practice is a wonderful experience, but this is just the starting point. The heart of Mingjue Gongfu and Zhineng Qigong is the transformation of consciousness. This manifests in the transformation of your qi, body, and health, as well as in all aspects of your life, including relationships.

How to Begin?

Mingjue relationships begin with total acceptance, and total acceptance begins with deep observation. Not thinking or analyzing, but observing. Mingjue observes everything in a free state. This includes all life phenomena and processes, like birth, death, sickness, wellness, and yes, relationships. To mingjue eyes, difficulties or problems in your relationships are just natural phenomena, similar to the wind blowing or the refrigerator humming or dishes sitting in the sink. Mingjue receives this information as neutral.

Mingjue also plays with the information. It does not avoid problems or deny they are happening. It simply observes them without judgment or labels, and in this pure baby-heart state, mingjue can be flexible with the information of relationships. Like play-laughing and asking, “Why am I taking this incident so seriously?”

Mingjue does not try to push others to change. Peace and harmony cannot be achieved by requesting or demanding that someone else changes, even if your intentions are well-meaning. Like, “I’m practicing mingjue, so you should, too.” To this, Teacher Wei says a firm, “No.” The more you want to change others, the more their reference framework will feel judged and want to protect and guard themselves, generating more separation and resistance.

Lastly, Mingjue connects to the collective mingjue field, or the universal love field. It is important to connect to this infinite field, because it quietly and invisibly merges with and transforms everything. The field is here to support you as you live your daily life and encounter all sorts of phenomena. Connect to it. Allow it to stabilize your state. Trust it to open you to mingjue love and gratitude, so they can flow easily through you, transforming you and others alike.

Eventually, you will come to know in every moment and in every relationship, Ah, I am mingjue love.

The Most Important Relationship

This is the key point: the most important relationship is mingjue with itself — to know itself as mingjue love. This refers to both your consciousness with itself, and your consciousness merged with the collective field / universal heart.

As a mingjue student, you will come to realize that every experience in your life is, in essence, about yourself. That is, it is a reflection of your internal programming. All the complications and complexities of the relationships in your life — they are co-created by your reference framework. Every experience, therefore, is an opportunity for mingjue to purify and awaken more to itself.

For example, if you are triggered by your partner or another family member, know that this is simply a test. How stable is my consciousness? How strong is mingjue love flowing through me? How much do I trust the mingjue love consciousness field to support and transform me? Without challenges in your daily life, mingjue cannot “grow up” or evolve. The relationships that challenge you the most are but guideposts showing you where the deepest blockages or resistance still remain.

As mingjue awakens and harmonizes itself, your relationships will naturally harmonize, too, because you are transforming your information field, your consciousness field, and your qi field. In this way, you will naturally create a beautiful hunhua process (merging and transforming) for everyone and everything around you.

This is the greatest gift you can give yourself, your family, and society.

Adapted from the course, Awaken Your Heart, Heal Your Life, May 2024 (Day 4), as taught by Teacher Wei, and excerpts from his book, Mingjue Awakening.